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For a period of time some additions and updates will be made on the Voices blog. Your input is welcome if you would like to add or update information about yourself or about our Class of '63 friends. You can contact me, Nicki Wilcoxson, on Facebook by sending a message to me there. Your contributions are welcomed. January 17, 2012

Saturday, December 31, 2016

The Looking Glass: The Best of Times ... The Worst of Times ... Hail, Farewell and Benediction....

by Jennifer Johnston

It was the best of times , it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it was the winter of despair, we had everything before us, we had nothing before us....

So wrote Charles Dickens in his epic, classic novel, A Tale of Two Cities, about the French Revolution (1789-1799), published in 1859, 100 years before we entered Childress High School as Freshmen in 1959. As true and applicable as Dickens' words were when written, as well as to the time and times before they were written, I find myself recalling them often when thinking of the present day, and of all the decades of the lives of the Class of 1963.... And while to some extent those words may have over the years become something of a cliche, I still find them moving, and memorable ... a reflection of times past, and a cautionary prediction of times to come.... 

We grew up in an idyllic, idealized time following World War II, through the 1950s and into the 1960s, when there began to be a great movement for change in this country. The halcyon visions of the 1950s were the TV shows Father Knows Best and Leave It to Beaver, along with "throwback" shows about a fictional Old West which we never knew, and didn't really exist as it was portrayed. Rod Serling's prescient advisory Twilight Zone in 1959 and Gene Roddenberry's ground-breaking and iconic Star Trek in 1966 fired our imaginations to contemplate both the past and the future and how they were and are related. There was a revolution in music which exploded in 1956 with the advent of Elvis Presley and rock and roll, followed by Motown, the British Invasion and others, and which continues to this day in various new forms and styles.

The problems with the aforementioned Father and Beaver and other television shows of that era were that the majority of them did not present an accurate reflection of real life, when women had few to no rights; blacks and other minorities did not enjoy even basic civil rights; birth control and abortion were illegal; and there was no real safety net for the poor, the aged, the disabled, the disadvantaged. Unfortunately, despite many gains and much work by people who noted and were appalled by such inequities, those things have yet to be fully rectified, more than half a century later, regardless of the efforts of many of us over the years to effect such needed change. Others were and still are of the opinion that those were the best years ever, and so there remains in a rift in this country between people and classes that I likewise fear may not be bridged during what remains of this lifetime.

We were the first generation to grow up with the threat of global annihilation following the bombing of Hiroshima and Nagasaki, Japan on August 6 and August 9, 1945 (more than a year before I was born). Following those horrific events, the arms race among global powers led I believe to a particular fear and paranoia that we (perhaps all life on planet Earth) might be snuffed out at the push of a button.  We learned to "Duck and Cover" ... although had an actual nuclear bomb been dropped in close proximity, that "strategy" would likely have been ineffectual, not to say fatal. I remember very distinctly the entirety of the student body at Childress High School being assembled at the time of the Cuban Missile Crisis in October 1962, when the possibility of a nuclear war between the US and the Soviet Union seemed very real. Fortunately that incipient disaster and others were averted, though the possibility still remains.
 
Our generation was the first to benefit from many advances in medical science, particularly with the dreaded disease polio, when Jonas Salk produced the first polio vaccine in 1955.  We witnessed the first transplant of a human heart into another human by Christiaan Barnard on December 3, 1967. The advance of medical techniques and procedures and curatives over the past several decades has been nothing short of mind-boggling, and the day may be fast approaching when we are actually able to have ourselves cloned.

We marveled, but still felt a frisson of fear at the implications as the Soviet Union sent Sputnik into orbit on October 4, 1957, followed by the first man in space, Russian cosmonaut Yuri Gagarin on April 12, 1961.  Alan B. Shepard became the first American to experience sub-orbital flight, on May 5, 1961.  The space race was on!

President John F. Kennedy inspired us not only to be better people, but to literally reach for the moon. On July 21, 1969 US astronauts Neil Armstrong and Buzz Aldrin became the first men to walk on the lunar surface.  Alas, JFK's is promise as perhaps one of our greatest Presidents was tragically ended with his assassination by Lee Harvey Oswald in Dallas on November 22, 1963 (our graduation year), which plunged the nation into grief and disbelief, comparable I believe to our parents' terrible memories of the attack on Pearl Harbor December 7, 1941 ... the "date that will live in infamy" as President Franklin Delano Roosevelt called it. 

Subsequently the Vietnam War, Watergate, Iran/Contra, the disputed Florida vote count in the 2000 election, the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan, and the election of Barack Obama as our first black President in 2008 tore our generation and others apart, revealing ugly contrasts between those still stuck in the Jim Crow, racist, misogynistic 1950s and those who strive to continue our progress toward full civil rights for all. We covered most if not all of these things in The Times of Our Lives series in several posts to the blogs ... the good, the bad, the ugly and the indifferent.... (See particularly my post on 1968, indexed in the Reflections blog.) Given the results of the 2016 US Presidential and Congressional elections, I fear there are many more years of strife ahead.

On September 11, 2001 we as a nation came together again in shock and sorrow over the terrible loss of life in New York City, Washington DC and Pennsylvania, as well as the shattering of our collective sense of securityAlas, the schisms between right wing (conservative, Republican) and left wing (progressive, Democratic) in the wake of 9/11 deepened the divide between ideologies. Yet I remain hopeful that this chasm will eventually be bridged, to benefit us, and all mankind.

Our generation saw the amazing evolution of the telephone from the time we had to ask a local operator to dial a call for us in our own towns, to the first rotary dial, to touch tone phones, to cell phones which can be carried with us and can at the touch of a keypad almost instantaneously connect us with people all over the globe. 

We who learned to type on old Royal manual typewriters also have witnessed the rise of computers, from those which took a huge room to contain them to personal computers for our home, or to be carried with us, or accessed on those cell phones nearly all of us carry now. As with many things, some may consider the computer and/or its progeny the internet to be mixed blessings.  For all of the amazing things they can do, these electronic wonders (along with television) can also be used for the dissemination of "fake news" (such as the canard that President Obama was born in Kenya, and other scurrilous things).  In these troubled days, it is more important than ever before that we make sure of our facts and the truth, as well as check and cross-check with reliable, credible sources of news before spreading unfounded, untrue rumors.

Television itself also came into general use as we grew up, when we watched our parents put tall, heavy antennas in our back yards to catch a weak signal from one or two stations. Now we live in a world of cable and fiber optics, where we can access literally hundreds of channels, from all over the world, in different languages. And air travel to the far horizons of our world, once only the province of the rich, or the military, has become pretty much available for anyone who is so inclined, within a matter of hours, not the days or months which travel once entailed.

Despite our small-town upbringing and rather homogeneous earlier lives, we did become different people as we grew and learned and matured. Some of us left the confines of our parental homes and of Childress for the wider world as soon as we could, as I did, ultimately traveling to six of the seven continents (and I haven't yet given up on the possibility of Antarctica), and multiple cities and countries, in fulfillment of one of my childhood dreams to explore other worlds, other cultures, other people.

Some of us were content to remain in the familiar surroundings where they were nurtured, while others left Childress for diverse reasons.  Whether they stayed "at home" or moved elsewhere, some retained the mindset they grew up with there of the 1950s and 1960s, while others blossomed into new thoughts and beliefs. In other words, we lived our lives ... for good or ill, for better or worse, in happiness and in sadness, or a mixture of all those things, as people have throughout time.

And now, with a heavy heart and many mixed feelings, I must write that this will be the final post to this blog, and by extension to our previous blogs, Reflections on the Way We Were: The Childress High School Class of 1963; The Class of 1963: Show and Tell; and Short Notes for the Class of 1963, all of which are linked here on the right hand side of this page and/or on the Reflections blog, for anyone who may read this and want to access them in the future, or for those of us who may want to return and reread them for the sake of remembrance and reverie. There is enough of the historian and the scholar and the writer in me to think that some day, perhaps even hundreds of years into the future, someone may stumble upon these writings and memories and thoughts and be absolutely fascinated to discover what a group of people who grew up in a small town in Texas in the latter half of the 20th Century felt and thought and observed through that time, and into the 21st Century ... and how we evolved and changed during those years ... much like historians and scholars have pored over hieroglyphs, and cuneiform tablets, and Dead Sea Scrolls, and cave drawings to try to determine what actually occurred in eons past.

[The thought occurs: Since I believe we live multiple lives, wouldn't it be amazing if I were the "someone" (same soul, different life) who stumbles across these blogs??? Oh, the possibilities, karmic and otherwise.... Snarf!!!]

Unfortunately, since the blogs' creator and my blog partner Nicki Wilcoxson closed this blog on April 6, 2010 (having previously closed the other blogs), and then reopened it on January 18, 2012 for me to begin posting a series of obituaries of our classmates, in addition to my earlier writings on many subjects, the blog has now devolved into a veritable death watch, and as I said in one of those obits, I am beginning to feel like the Angel of Death.... Indeed, I had the particularly difficult task of having to write obituaries not only for Nicki, but for her husband Jim, who I believe fittingly died within ten days of each other, since it was impossible for me or others to think of one without the other. And, given that I have now reached the advanced (and once seemingly impossible, to me anyway) age of 70 (October 18, 2016), it becomes ever more apparent that I am the last voice left to speak for us, at least on these blogs, since I am the only one who can still access them. There are so many wonderful posts and posits and comments in all the blogs, so much life!!!  And I cannot bear the thought of that future scholar or historian finding them, seeing nothing but a lot of death, and perhaps not taking the time to explore the wonderful memories, and experiences, and stories and thoughts that we recorded here.

In short, I think the blogs have been an incredible endeavor, and constitute an incredible record of our life and lives, and I hope somehow they (and we) will be preserved, at least in our words and photographs, if not in our current corporeal bodies.

Before I close, I have a few people I must acknowledge and thank for enriching my life and/or for their contributions to these blogs. First and foremost, to Nicki for her vision and hard work in starting the blogs. Thanks are also due to Linda Kay Bridges Cook, Joe Don Hopkins, Sheila Davis Martinez, Clara Robinson Meek, Raenell Wynn Smith, Charlene Bierschmitt Clouse, Bettye Shahan Bagley, Driscilla Dehtan Storrs, Jim Wilcoxson and others who wrote posts and/or comments to posts to further leave a record of our progress through the days and times of our lives. (A whimsical "thank you" to Guinevere the Druid Goddess, my alter ego who first "came to me" in Journalism class in high school, under whose name and slightly "unhinged" persona I wrote several posts, and to Blog the Troll and Sister Brigid, who still choose to remain anonymous ... snarf!) A very personal thanks to my mentor and friend, Alton Darryl Morris, our Junior English teacher, who also taught Speech and Journalism, and who was the first person to convince me that I might actually have something to say that people might be interested in reading. Darryl also contributed numerous posts and comments to the blogs, and his participation was greatly appreciated.

So, on this last day of December of the year 2016 CE (Common Era) ... Hail and farewell to the Class of 1963 of Childress High School.... Gods and ghosts, spirits and seers, dreamers and believers ... remember always and sing the songs of the people who walked the halls of CHS and graced these blogs, and our incredible saga as a particular generation of people in a country on the third planet from the sun once upon a time, during diverse times.... May we always live in mist and memory....

Jennifer )O(   

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Wednesday, August 31, 2016

Ronnie/"Rodney" ... A Quiet Man ... A Gentle Soul....

by Jennifer Johnston

Our friend and classmate Ronnie Frank Kindle (a/k/a "Rodney") left us, and this life, on Tuesday, August 9, 2016 in Amarillo, Texas where he had lived the majority of his life after graduating CHS.... Ronnie was born in Childress County, at his family's farmhouse, on October 20, 1944....

I was saddened (as were others of us) to hear of Ronnie's death, though we were not particularly close friends in high school, nor after.... The only time I ever saw Ronnie after graduation was the night before Paula Leach Schubarth's funeral in May 2002, when he and Joe Hopkins and Doug Greer came by Lynn Purcell Durham's house (where I was staying for a few days) and visited and reminisced with us about Paula and our school days....

When Sheila Davis Martinez messaged me that Ronnie had died, and after my initial shock (no matter how old we get, I am still stunned to hear that one of us has gone), the first thoughts which came to mind about Ronnie were how quiet he was, how guileless he seemed, and how he always seemed to fit the description of a truly gentle soul, all the way from elementary school through high school, and as I have heard, throughout his later life.... That is how he left us ... going gently and quietly into that "good night," without warning or time to prepare....

Among other things, Ronnie played Bobcat football under those fabled "Friday Night Lights," as a Fullback who wore #31. He was the class Treasurer in Sophomore year and class Reporter for Junior year, as well as being named "Most Bashful Boy" as a Sophomore and "Cutest Boy" when we were Seniors.

After I had absorbed and mulled Sheila's message, I contacted and spoke with Joe, one of Ronnie's closest friends, who sent me the following reflections....

"Jennifer, I too was deeply saddened when I got news of Ronnie's death today. His partner [Charlene] of 28 years called and said that he had a heart attack yesterday and died at about 1:30 pm. Apparently there was no warning or history of heart issues. ... They both worked for a company called Western Irrigation for many years.

Ronnie and I were thicker than fleas in high school, mostly involving drinking beer. Too many stories to recall and too many hangovers to forget!. We did manage to stay out of jail until the summer after we graduated. We got busted at the Vernon rodeo and spent the night in their jail, along with Harold [Simmons] and Barry [Wakefield].
  
Ronnie served in Vietnam in about 1967 or 1968. He never talked about his time there so I don't know what he experienced. ... He worked for the same company I did, Purolator Courier, in the mid to late 1970's, in Amarillo. I think he started his career with Western in the late 80's but I am not positive. We spoke on the phone about 2-3 times annually, including about 2-3 weeks ago. He was always in a good mood and enjoyed talking about work and fishing trips. I know he and Stan were the youngest of several brothers and sisters in the Kindle family. 

We were at Barry's funeral in 01/2015 and at Nicki [Sooter Wilcoxson]'s funeral in 05/2015. That was the last time I saw him in person

Ronnie had two daughters and 5 grandchildren. He seemed very content with his life and had no plans to retire to my knowledge. I miss him already and wish I could have had more time with him. He was a valued and trusted friend who did not judge people and was a man of his word."

I so appreciate the information Joe, as always, and I am sure others will too.... Ronnie is also survived by his brothers Mike and Stanley, which I learned from his obituary in The Amarillo Globe News....

Safe journey, Ronnie, as you travel on.... You are missed....

)O(    

Saturday, August 8, 2015

Dr. Jerry Newberry ... Wanda Pryor ... and The Voice....

by Jennifer Johnston

I am beginning to feel a bit like the Angel of Death ... so much of what is posted to the blog now involves notice(s) of the death(s) of one or more of our classmates.... Still, I do believe that the continuing evolution of the blog, to cover as much of the history of the Class of 1963 of Childress High School as possible does warrant such difficult posts, because I think it is in our nature to want to know what has happened to friends and/or classmates we once saw nearly every day of our younger lives.... And if there is other news to post which may be interesting or important to us, I will endeavor to do so as long as I am able, and I encourage anyone who has a relevant story, or information, or whatever to contact me so it may be posted here as another knot in the thread of our lives.... But for now, I bring you news of the deaths of two more of our classmates and friends....

The voice called, and I went.
I went because the voice called.
(Hannah Szenes)
 
DR. JERRY NEWBERRY
November 25, 1944 - July 31, 2015

 

Jerry was born in Childress, and died at his home in Spokane, Washington ... leaving behind his wife and our classmate, Diana Veal Newberry, their daughter Kim Gines and her husband Matt and their three daughters, of Deer Park, Washington. Jerry and Diana met each other when they were five years old, and married on August 26, 1967 in Childress.

After graduating with honors from CHS, Jerry took his undergraduate degree and did post-undergrad studies at Texas Tech University in Lubbock. Jerry then attended medical school at the University of Texas Medical Branch at Galveston, and upon graduation moved to Portland, Oregon to complete his internship. Subsequently he returned to Galveston for his two-year residency and also did a fellowship with renowned heart surgeon Dr. Michael DeBakey.  He and Diana moved to Spokane, where he practiced Anesthesiology for 25 years before retiring from practice. In retirement he was an ombudsman for the state of Washington, assisting the elderly with medical matters.

Jerry and Diana loved the outdoors, fishing trips with the family, their annual visit to Hawaii, and saw much of the world, including Paris, France.

It is said that many doctors go into the profession because they feel a calling to help and heal and succor others, and I like to think this was the case with Jerry, as his work with the elderly after retirement would seem to indicate....

Deepest condolences to our friend Diana, and their family, and to all of Jerry's friends and colleagues....

WANDA SUE PRYOR CASIAS
November 21, 1944 - January 31, 2012



Although Wanda did not graduate in Childress with our class, she was our classmate through Childress Junior High School before moving to Amarillo with her mother, though she did spend some time with us at CHS.... Our Junior year annual has two pictures of her in our Junior Class Play (though not with our other class pictures).

Wanda and I had been fairly close (both in proximity and in friendship) until she moved after eighth grade, since she only lived a block over from my grandparents' house on Avenue D. NW.  She was another of my grandmother's "adoptees" among certain of my friends. And while Wanda and I basically lost contact with each other in the years after graduation, she would always make a point of stopping to see my grandmother whenever she passed through Childress and I would hear some news of her that way, until my grandmother died in 1979.  The last time I spoke with Wanda was by phone ca. 1973, not long after she had married John Casias on March 3, 1972.

I had thought about Wanda on and off over the years, and I recently just googled her name, and found an obituary and a related story which detailed her death, which saddened me tremendously.... I found that after feeling called to the ministry in May of 1980, Wanda and her husband John decided to minister to the people of Mexico, which they did for 30 years, prior to their simultaneous deaths on January 31, 2012. They were murdered in their home by someone on that day, and their bodies were found by one of their sons (one of the 10 children they left behind).

Although the news of the method and nature of Wanda's and John's deaths did bring tears for the vibrant, intelligent girl I had known so long ago, it didn't surprise me very much, because the Wanda I will remember had always been involved with care and concern for her fellows and for mankind.... She understood, as we should all understand, John Donne's words: "Never send to ask for whom the bell tolls; it tolls for thee." And so I, and her other friends, must take solace in the thought that she found that "calling" ... that desire and impetus to help others ... and draw on their examples to do the good thing, the right thing, the honorable thing, as best we can....

I will end this post with more beautiful words by Hannah Szenes, which I feel are appropriate here:

Blessed is the match consumed in kindling flame.
Blessed is the flame that burns in the secret fastness of the heart.
Blessed is the heart with the strength to stop its beating for honor's sake.
Blessed is the match consumed in kindling flame.

May we all listen for the voice deep within us, the voice that calls us to higher service than ourselves ... and may we heed that call for the betterment of others and for this world where we now live....

)O(

Saturday, June 27, 2015

The Looking Glass: Equality ... Equity ... and History....

by Jennifer Johnston

Friday, June 26, 2015 is a day that will be remembered and celebrated (perhaps not by some, but that is their problem) as a huge milestone in the history of our country....

On that date, by a vote of 5-4, the United States Supreme Court (Justices Kennedy, Ginsburg, Sotomayor, Kagan and Breyer) ruled that marriage may no longer be denied to a group of our citizens, specifically those consenting adults who choose to marry another consenting adult of the same sex. The ruling was a long time in coming, although it must be said that in the end, it actually came more quickly than perhaps might have been imagined just a few years ago. And although I know there are some who will disagree with me, IT WAS THE CORRECT RULING and should indeed have happened sooner.

I have never understood the rationale behind denying the fundamental rite (and right) of marriage to a huge class of our citizens.... Sorry, but religious objections should have NO CONSIDERATION and NO SWAY in what is a bedrock matter of civil rights.... It is VERY SIMPLE: If you don't want to marry someone of the same sex, if it is against your religious beliefs, then by all means DON'T!!!! No one will force you to do so. But don't try to deny that inalienable right to others...

"We hold these truths to be self evident, that all men are created equal." These stirring words, from our Declaration of Independence, adopted by Congress on July 4, 1776 are beautiful, inspiring ... and poignant.... For at the time of the Declaration of Independence, women were considered as chattel by their husbands; slavery was an institution (not only the slavery of black men and women and children, but of others, including the Irish); and in so many other ways, it was so obvious that ALL men (and women) were not considered or held equal in the eyes of the law....

However, I believe ... I have always believed ... that the Declaration of Independence, along with the Bill of Rights and the US Constitution, were written by good and decent men, who intended that those documents were only a template, and that they would be living, breathing instruments for the growth and future direction of our country, as times and attitudes changed and adaptation became necessary and required.... 

I remember when we were students at CHS there were more than one of our fellow students who were gay ... some might have been a bit more obvious than others, and I grieve still that they were subjected to taunts and slurs and unreasonable harassment ... and I know that there were others, who managed to "hide" within the majority student body, and only "came out" (if they EVER did) many years later.... Many people of our age, and younger, and older, wondered if this day of marriage equality would ever come during their lifetimes ... and sadly, for many, it did not.

So as we approach the July 4th celebration of our independence, let us note and rejoice that at very long last this group of people has been granted rights which they should have had all along, and resolve that discrimination against others is, ab initio, wrong.... And let us also resolve to continue to nurture and grow this country (which by the way was NOT founded as nor intended to be a Christian nation) WITH LIBERTY AND JUSTICE FOR ALL....

)O( 

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Nicki and Jim ... Reflections ... and Auld Lang Syne....

by Jennifer Johnston

When I was young ... when all of us in the Childress High School Class of 1963 were young, more than half a century ago ... I was perplexed by the habit of my grandfather, W.C. Harp, to make frequent trips to the Childress Cemetery to "visit" with those he had known and loved, whose mortal remains rested there....

How morbid, I thought... How gross!!! How terrible to seemingly be looking forward to his own death, to leaving this life and rejoining those literal ghosts of the past. My teenaged mind rebelled against the thought....

But now, after my own decades of this life and watching so many that I have known and loved leave this world, I think I understand more of what was in my Papa's mind.... Truth: More people who were important to me, and who I dearly loved, have left this time and place than I will EVER meet again in this life.... But now I believe with all my heart and soul, as my Papa did, that I will see them again in another place and time, another life, another promised "future"....

Nicki and Jim, this is for you ... and for auld lang syne....

I will always remember Nicki and Jim as a couple; and indeed they were, almost from the moment they were introduced when Nicki's family moved to Childress before our Freshman year at CHS, although Nicki laughingly related a story for the Show and Tell blog about how absolutely mortified she was when she was first introduced to Jim.... Still, it is almost impossible to think of one without the other.... Indeed, they were lovely and graceful in their lives together, for 55 years (50 as man and wife) ... and fittingly I think, in death they were not long parted....

I had known Jim since childhood in Childress, one of the "gang" who played in the streets until dark sent us scurrying for home, and ran through lawn sprinklers, and attended each others' birthday parties, and Trick-or-Treated in costumed packs at Halloween.... By the time Nicki joined us, we had moved on to more typically teenaged pursuits such as dragging Highway 287 and Main Street and the City Park; stopping for cokes and 'burgers at the Dairy Mart; bowling at the new Childress bowling alley where Nicki's parents kept watchful eyes on us; trips to dance at the Blue Room; slumber parties; and trying to ensure that "Tuffy" Maddox wasn't around to note if our feet got a bit heavy on gas pedals, or were "busted" in some fun but ofttimes insane adolescent pranks....

Although of course I knew Nicki, we didn't actually "hang around" with the same people in high school, and it became a true blessing when she contacted me in late summer of 2007 to tell me about the blog she had just started, Relections on the Way We Were: The Class of 1963 of Childress High School. She mentioned that Clara Robinson Meek had said she should contact me to see if I was interested in working on the blog with her ... and the approximately two years that Nicki and I (joined on occasion by some others) worked together on that blog, and the ancillary blogs, Show and Tell and then Voices of the Class of 1963, proved not only to be amazing trips down the fabled Memory Lane, but also became some of the most treasured days of my life.... I was truly blessed to have the opportunity then to get to know Nicki, and Jim as well, as the wonderful, caring people they had by then become....

One further indirect and almost posthumous "gift" from Nicki and Jim, was to get to know their daughter Jami Wilcoxson Wilmarth, and to have a chance to read the blog she kept of their final days together, Aging Gracefully is an Oxymoron; and to see posts by their other daughter, Kim Wilcoxson Migliaccio and their grandson, Jordie Henry.... I never knew until their obituaries were published that Nicki and Jim had another daughter, Amy, who apparently did not survive infancy. But what a lovely family they raised and nurtured, and left with such a legacy of love and golden memories....

I will end this post with words I used in the Reflections blog on January 31, 2007 ... New Year's Eve ... which attempted to update the class on some friends and teachers who had died in the years since our graduation, and I believe it is fitting to recall them here....

"Auld" means "old" and "auld lang syne" translates literally from Scots as "old long since" ... or idiomatically, as "long long ago" or "days gone by:"

Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And never brought to mind?
Should auld acquaintance be forgot,
And days of auld lang syne?

Our answer to the questions posed in the song would be an emphatic "No." We should not forget who we once were, where we came from, and those who touched our lives so long, long ago ... even as we move inexorably from past through present into future.

In The Hundred Secret Senses, a bittersweet novel of the meaning of loyalty, sisterhood, fate, friendship, the supernatural and extraordinary love, author Amy Tan wrote:  "If people we love die, then they are lost only to our ordinary senses. If we remember, we can find them any time with our hundred secret senses ... memory, seeing, hearing, feeling, all come together...." The book's protagonist, Olivia, learns "the world is not a place but the vastness of the soul. And the soul is nothing more than love, limitless, endless, all that moves us toward knowing what is true." The ability to use our secret senses to "connect" with those who have gone before us allows us to realize the infinite quality of time.

Nicki and Jim, it was truly an honor and a great pleasure to know you, and you will certainly live in my memory, and in the memories of others, for as long as we are in this life.... I will continue to revisit our blogs from time to time, as I have always done, throughout the years and smile at the memories we made and recorded, together ... I will add to the blog as may be needed from time to time ... and I do believe that we and all those whose lives you touched and who loved you so much will see you again....


 (Post-Posting Note: Nicki may be laughing about this as I type.... It has taken me longer to try to post this than it did to write it.... Some problem with the fonts, though I have typed and retyped it.... Sometimes such things would happen and all I could do was throw up my hands and ask Nicki to try to fix it.... So am posting as it is, with apologies.... Nicki, if you're there.... (smile).... Rest well, my friend....)

)O(

Nicki Janice Sooter Wilcoxson       James Marvin Klosters Wilcoxson
October 7, 1945 - May 13, 2015    November 15, 1944 - May 23, 2015